As I write this, my ears are throbbing…because I decided to embark on some mother-daughter bonding yesterday. My daughter, Caroline, convinced me to get my ears triple pierced and also get one in the cartilage up top. THIS is the point in my life that I realized my child’s pain tolerance is MUCH higher than mine. Caroline didn’t flinch. I nearly cried.

I have so much to share with you…I’m struggling to know where to start. So, I’ll start with some encouragement for you…

My friend, Jamie Kern Lima, was on the verge of bankruptcy after being rejected hundreds of times before she went on to form IT Cosmetics. Yes, she sold IT Cosmetics for over a billion dollars. And, yes, she went on to become the first female CEO in L’Oreal’s history. 

BUT, hear me again: she was on the verge of bankruptcy and heard “NO” hundreds of times. The rejection was personal, as well. At one point she was told, “I don’t think people will buy makeup from someone who looks like you with your body and weight…”

Can you even imagine? So, how did Jamie continue to believe in herself? And, more importantly, why did she know to keep going? 

Jamie learned to change her relationship with rejection…and she tells me in this week’s podcast that if we can learn to change it, it will change our lives! 

There are a few ways to do that…

1. First of all, realize this is something everyone struggles with. You’re not alone. 

2. Jamie says she learned to change her perspective… After rejection, she CHOSE not to wallow. Rather, she would tell herself “I’m so brave! I’m one of the BRAVE ONES who chose to go for it!”

3. Regret — no one wants to live with it. What’s the BEST thing that can happen if you go for it? Focus on that…and keep reminding yourself how brave you are. 

4. When the self-doubt and fear and negative self-talk creep in…remember to ask yourself “is it true? Is It kind? Is it helpful?”

Friends, you are braver than you know… and you are not alone! 

FARIS FAVORITES

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THIS might be the most genius #MomHack I’ve ever seen…and, I’m happy to report that it works! My ice cream sandwiches are safe and sound in my freezer :)

2. Single moms have my respect and my heart…I’m going to send FIVE copies of my book to single mamas. If you are one, or you know one, DM me your mailing address via IG and I’ll send an autographed copy your way!! My co-writer for this book is a single mom, as are my publisher and editor. Single moms…you are HEROES. Also, the book remains the #1 new release in motherhood and is ON SALE AT AMAZON for $10 off! Thank you for your support! 

3. Come see me TONIGHT in South Carolina at Books-A-Million in Anderson. I’ll be in Alabama on Thursday at Page & Palette in Fairhope. And, next Tuesday, I’ll be at Barnes & Noble in Brentwood, Tennessee. You can find the schedule HERE. It’s been so great meeting you at local book signings… just look how much fun we’re having!

Here's what you missed this week in The CARRY™ ALL, the weekly newsletter BY working moms, for working moms (and the Media company birthed out of my own Called Out story!)

1. A FREE guide to ditching mom guilt 

2. How to connect with your tween

3. What the PUMP Act means for you

4. A letter to the mom who struggles to ask for help

The Paula Faris 'Faith and Calling' Podcast

EPISODE 95 with Jamie Kern Lima - If you’re looking for a master class in believing in yourself, flipping the script on rejection and letting your WHY be your guide, you’ve come to the perfect place! No one has navigated these choppy waters better than my good friend, entrepreneur, speaker, author and co-founder of IT Cosmetics, Jamie Kern Lima. Hear Jamie's jaw-dropping story that led her through a chorus of countless nos from investors and retailers, the verge of bankruptcy and the 10 brave and fateful minutes that would put IT Cosmetics on the map and shift the beauty industry forever. Listen Now>>

EPISODE 94 with Al Roker and Deborah Roberts - 

This is one of my ALL-TIME favorite conversations! They may work for rival TV networks, but offscreen, NBC Today Co-host Al Roker and ABC News Senior National Affairs Correspondent Deborah Roberts are partners and allies in every sense of the word. 

Al and Deborah are a classic case of opposites attract, but nearly 30 years in, their love is deeper than ever. Hear why and how they’ve made it work in this fun conversation spanning the topics of romance, empty nesting, keeping the peace on a road trip – and their deep faith. 

Listen Now>>